Anonymous no.1

I met Ale in 2019 when I was still in cosmetology school. He came to do a presentation about Esoterica, and he cut my hair for the presentation. Afterwards he followed me on Instagram so that I could tag him in the picture of my new haircut. A month or so later I saw Ale at Ogle Face Off, a hair show created and hosted by the school each year. Ale often participated in this show, showing models and doing hair on stage. At this time I wanted to work at Esoterica, so I felt I should talk to him at this event. In April I started volunteering at Esoterica, and that’s when the messages started of him constantly wanting to “hang out”. 

One thing that really sticks out in my mind is that he told me “I am old enough to be your dad” immediately followed up with “it’s kinda hot”. When I mentioned I had a boyfriend he would either ignore and disregard it, or would say something like “he wouldn’t have to know.” When I was volunteering at the salon, he would sometimes take me out to lunch as “payment”. He would then often ask if I wanted to “hang out”, saying he had some free time and could even call and reschedule some of his clients. No matter how many times I rejected his advances he would continue making moves on me. He would even try to kiss me after continuously being told no.

One day while volunteering he texted asking for some pictures of me. I obliged and sent him some selfies. He replied that wasn’t what he was looking for, that he wanted something more revealing. I declined and he initially said he understood, but added that I was just afraid of my  boyfriend finding out. A few volunteer days after that, I had left my phone on the color bar in the salon while I went to use the restroom. I didn’t think anything about it at the time. Later that night though he texted me, saying he had seen some “sexy pictures” on my phone and asked me to send them to him. I declined again but asked when he had seen them. He told me he had gone through my photos while I was in the bathroom and even sent himself some on snapchat. Again saying that my boyfriend wouldn’t find out that way. 

Later on he offered me a mannequin stand to borrow since mine had been stolen. He told me I could come pick it up from him at his house in Fort Worth. When I got there he asked me to come in while he looked for it. I sat on the couch and played with his dogs while he was “finding” the mannequin stand. He came back into the living room and sat down right beside me on the couch. He started forcing a kiss on me and trying to remove my clothes. I kept trying to push him away and telling him no but he persisted. He kept telling me how beautiful I was and how much he wanted me. He ended up groping me and kissing me for I don’t know how long. When I finally got away from him, he acted understanding and just grabbed a stand and handed it to me. I grabbed it and left immediately. Later that night he messaged me asking if he “wasn’t good enough”, trying to make me feel as if I had done something wrong by protecting myself from his unwanted and non-consensual advances. I stopped replying to him for a bit, but he would message me daily asking why I was ignoring him. I ended up talking to him again to return the mannequin stand I had borrowed. He offered to bring me food up to my school and I said yes. He told me I had to be quiet about him bringing me food though, since he was so well known there. When I went to get the food from him, he tried to kiss me again. After pushing him off I grabbed the food and left. He texted me again after, telling me I could have thanked him for the food. He was trying to guilt me for rejecting him and protecting myself. After that I blocked his phone number and on snapchat. I still had him on Instagram and Facebook though, so he just switched to messaging me there. He kept asking when we were going to hang out again “like old times”. Eventually after ignoring him for long enough. the communication stopped. But I have felt guilty about the situation since. After I graduated I felt like I was never going to make it in the beauty industry because of the things he said to me. It took me a while to build my confidence back up. At one point I even caught myself wanting him to comment on pictures I posted on my business page, telling me I was doing a good job. Once I had started posting a bit on the page he messaged me and offered me a position to work at his salon. He said that he wanted me there, and that he wanted to hang out again. I have always been so scared to say anything or block him on social media, fearing that maybe he still has the aforementioned pictures and would post them on the internet. He had mentioned he was active on some adult websites, and that he would make videos with his partners. He would often tell me how much he wanted to film those videos with me too.

As of today he has been blocked on all social media.